Sometimes thing won't turn out like the way you want. Especially in a family. Why can't we all be happy in a happy big family? NO, It can never be a Big happy family. Always something in there wrong. I hate it. Why life has to be that complicated???

you can deal with anything in this world without any worry, but you can not deal with you own family without a worry. So sad! Sad! I think I am always the one who is so frustrated with my big family, I think I am always the one who has to fall into that big ugly black hole.

I do have a great husband and he is everything I want. But When I look at my big family who hates each other like my parents can not get a long with my uncles and aunt and etc and that is why sometimes my aunt and uncles hate me too coz i listen to my parents and so on and on and on.............never stop that type of sh!t in a house on and on...it makes me so headache very headache.

I am glad that I don't live with any of them, I don't even live with my parents. I only live by myself with my husband. We are happy without any of them. But when a certain phone call that keep remind me of people in my family and the past. It does make me so sad and frustrated and think about Why life is so suck! why can't we get a long with each other ?

sometimes think about stuff in my family. it just makes me cry out. Sometimes I didn't tell my husband that i feel sad about family . I don't want to let him know. coz it makes him sad as well and upset. so i just call my friend and tell them. I don't want to make my husband upset coz it is nothing relate to him it is belong to my family belong to me not him. It just thing in my family turn out not the way i want. I feel Suck!

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In other countries like Far East Asia women are still held in LOWER esteem BUT in China, it’s a different story. Chinese women are much more aggressive and outspoken and held in Higher esteem.” I love Communist that provides males and females Equality and WOMEN’S Rights in China.

ChinesePussy,

I'm sorry to learn that life is difficult just now. Hang in there - things willl get better, I'm sure of it.

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Eudaimonia

((((CP))))

As someone who also has issues with her family, I understand. They can be wonderful, but family can hurt you like no one else.

(((CP)))

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

yeah! sometimes I do talk to my husband but not all the time. It is hard.

you know sometimes we feel so hurt coz the people in your family used to be very close to you, but now they see you on the street they act like they don't know. it hurt like hell. My parrents of course love me and did came to my wedding. and they arranged the wedding for me

BUT my cousins, my uncles, my aunts and my whole big sh!t family none of them came to my wedding including those people that i was so close and love them so much. it is so sh!t to think about it. none of them came to my wedding. it hurt me.

sometimes people i know asked me how is my relatives doing. i answered them, "I don't know, I know that they are dead by car accident. coz I have no phone call from them or anything from them"

I was so mad when someone mentioned about them. so i said they are dead! they turned me into a mean person now. coz they didn't come to my wedding and no phone call anything



thanks for a feed back.

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In other countries like Far East Asia women are still held in LOWER esteem BUT in China, it’s a different story. Chinese women are much more aggressive and outspoken and held in Higher esteem.” I love Communist that provides males and females Equality and WOMEN’S Rights in China.

Relatives can just crush your whole sense of what is supposed to be good in this world. Trouble is you can't do anything about the quality of the relatives that you are dealt.
You have to deal with what you got.
I tend to do this by avoiding the ones I can't stand as I feel emotionally poorer for every minute that I spend with them.

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Sex is a tricky thing best left to professionals.

Just be nice to them...mean people can't stand nice people...especially if they hurt you and they can see it won't affect you...works for me...like if some one gives me the finger or tells me to fuck off..I say God Bless you... When a family member has said somethng bad about me, and I hear about it, I send them a lovely card..it irritates them to death ...

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Susan

i can understand your feelings CP, hugs hun.

Luckily there is nothing like that in my family, it is all close knit between us.

(((((((((((((((CP)))))))))))))))))

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Don't pet the sweaty things!!!!

CP, your family sounds a lot like mine. My bf goes and pours the scotch as soon as he realizes it's a relative on the phone...he knows I'm going to need it.

Honestly, the best advice I can give you is to stay close with the ones that build you up.....and get as much space as you can between you and the ones that tear you down. It's all you can do.

Hang tough!