OF, while I understand your point, and since I am the most "frequent" poster of responses, I'll take what you are saying as a "caution sign".

I was in a similar situation when my own marriage ended. I was separated from my wife, and had started a relationship. I too, did not consider what I was doing either "cheating" OR "adulterous", since we were separated. My ex-wife, obviously not at the time, then found out about my relationship, and I felt that I was going to get hammered by the legal system, BECAUSE even though we were separated, it was still adultery.

I just am making these comments because I don't want to see another man get "caught with his pants down" by the legal system, when he doesn't realize he is in an adulterous relationship.

I will get down off the soap box now and leave this thread alone.