just had the chance of running into my ex..
seems for one to find out she's already found a new bf.. 2 or so months after we ended.. but even more so.. i find out this new bf was the reason my love was not returned how i wished it to be.. She was torn between him and i.. said she never did anything with him while we were together but that she kept seeing him..

How am i supposed to respond to that? I know we are through.. but it would be a blatant lie to tell her that im fine.. or that it doesnt make me angry..

To think that my time.. the years i spent with her.. were a simple waste of time.. That i was just a tool to her.. WTF

Why do i have such luck... i never did anything to deserve such bullshit in my life.. i've never broken any mirrors... and the only heart to be broken in my recollection is my own? Will this shit ever stop? i get the feeling it won't and every day is just another serious of highs and lows.. the lows sincerely outweighing any highs..

my buddy tells me thats what life is..

He is 38, married - seperated with a 9yr old and 1 1/2 yr him and his ole lady are getting along well being seperated.. but anyways

he says.. it won't get better.. least for him it hasn't yet.. says same day you wake up to a whole new load of bullshit.. you have to deal with it.. and move on to the next day to deal with the bullshit.. Says its a downward spiral you just have to hold on tight and climb up as much as you can as you fall. he has something he has to work for however.. he can't give up he has his children to take care of..

i don't have anything like that i have no reason to just fall.. its so tempting not to just give up.... i don't see a point in this struggling.. so hard.. and difficult for something that isn't worth it..

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Fantasy is only as as fake as your body wants it to be.

Anger stays with you as long as you hold it to you.

You need to find a safe hole to isolate it in (poke your head in there every so often to

make sure it's still simmering) and turn your back and start living again.

That sort of consuming pain will only stop you from starting afresh with someone who

may be the lady who'll open your beers and change the channel for you while you clip

the toenails she can't reach.

Your friend (like a friend of mine) is in the middle of Hellwars, where kids and anything

else is fair game to be used as a bludgeon on the other ex. This is a POISONED place

where your loyalty to your friend is doing you no favours and will eventually drown you.

Is there anything stopping you from going out, getting mildly pissed, drunk, shitfaced

or alcoholly challenged, meeting a nice girl/boy/1977 Monaro (car) and having some

short term, mutually satisfying fun?

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Calm, quiet, smooth, devastating

In answer to the first question, the pain doesn't stop, it just fades so far in the

background you have to strain to feel it.

PM me if you need to know how I know this.

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Calm, quiet, smooth, devastating

Great advice Oldfart,

In every heart there is a room
a sanctuary safe and strong
to heal the wounds from lovers past
until a new one comes along.


Billy Joel.........And so it goes

Best of luck

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you can alway's tell a limey,But Not Much


I'm so miserable with out you,

It's almost like having you here

i appreciate the advice oldfart and blkcat.

just lately i've felt so lost its pathetic..

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Fantasy is only as as fake as your body wants it to be.

I have a question for you. You've admitted to us that you are still hurting. That you're angry. You also said "it would be a blatant lie to tell her I'm fine".

My question to you is this: Why do you care about her knowing you're not fine? Why can't she ever find out that you're hurt and angry. As long as what she thinks still matters to you...you are powerless to move on. Not that you should disrespect her or treat her bad. Just stay away from her, and when you meet by chance and she says "how are you?"...well, "I'm still upset over how things went down...see you around."

Sooner or later, you'll notice it gets really easy to tell her goodbye.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.