A women's perspective: We ladies have got it a little easier than you gents - usually. Things tend to be a little more obvious when we are doing things just right. Personally speaking, when I'm with a partner, all of my energy is put into pleasing him. I ask questions. I want to know what he likes, and how to get him off. So when it's my turn, I make sure he knows when he is doing something right. And if he's not, i'm not shy, I'll help.