over the course of the last yr my daughter has been steadily worsening at both school (straight f's) and in her home life let me fill you in briefly................
if that's possible.....
ten yrs or so ago i left my abusive marriage and opted for living instead of being the human punch bag great for me and for my daughter who was 2 at the time i've always known that as time went by she would have issues from being the witness to such violence as should not be put on a babes heart ( i forever carry my portion of the responsibility for that) during the course of divorcing and all he wound up with sole physical custody and the two of us with joint legal custody. My daughter lives with her dad and her stepmom,stepsister and a half brother from that union. in the last eighteen months her scool work and grades spiraled down and down some more in spite of numerous approaches by her dad and stepmom. let me also say that in the past 5 yrs of being separated from my kid that she was allowed to see me on holidays and partial summers so that was sort of ok although not completely up to snuff it was workable during all this time we told our daughter that when i completed my apprentieship that she would come back to live with me i graduated approx 12-14 monthes ago at which time her father renigged on that deal. I have held my tongue for various legal reasons that still bear some scrutiny but later for that, i get a call 12-13 monthes ago from the stepmom was my Quote/unquote "offer" of medical insurance still available and workable as her pediatrician at her yrly checkup had AGAIN RECOMENDED FOR THE 5TH STRAIGHT YR THAT AUDREY GET SOME COUNSELING and they wanted to try that since nothing else had or has been working in regards to her school grades they put her on prozac and have given her minimal support as far as i can discern they are currently weaning off of prozac since that failed to control her unacceptable behaviour in favor of something herbal(thank god finally!) however they continue to downplay the part that our mutual violence probly has had on her and yesterday i get a call that she (my daughter) is cutting herself also being downplayed as not too very serious my question does any of the parents her have any experience with cutting or even first hand experience that could help me to be a receptive listener to her(am going up there this weekend) as well as what to say to her about it i'm completely out of any rational answers except for a few things that are already in the works HELPPPP! pixies please?
signed desparate and confused mom

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