You have to put it behind you one way or another..... you can't let him continue to interfere with you life. In the past, when counselling was not so common, people just had to manage. Although there were undoubtedly some severe casualties, I'm guessing that the majority of people in your situation just got by.

So - put it behind you. Tell yourself you would have been bi anyway, and try and get your wife to enjoy the opportunities that might bring her...

Above all, keep on trucking and enjoy life. The rest of the world doesn't really care what happened to you, and if you can put it down to experience, so much the better.