All I can say is try and work things out with your wife first. And in the process remember one simple truth--sex is the desert of a relationship not the main course. Honor, love and respect are promises made, and as an honorable man they are meant to be kept. Certainly there maybe elements of sex in your relationship that does work for the both of you.

In this relm I can but empythize with you. I Personally gone through 7 years of a living Hell before exhausting all hope. I can rest comfortable with a clear conscience. It was hard...thought for my "X" and I it wasn't sex that was the issue--just something a lot worst.

In part by honoring your wife, you honor yourself.

As to the ladies here, I can truthfully say from observation and communication that they are sophisticated and worthy of respect. I would be comfortable in wagering that such that you seek can not be found here.