Your BF, like most of us guys, is just being a guy - dense.

If he were to see through your eyes, he probably would not like what he sees, but to hear it from your mouth will register as nagging or controlling. A start would be to hear your perspective from someone else's mouth - a trusted friend or counselor. You might even hear some things from him that he can't voice, things you didn't expect.

If I ever act this way to a woman I care for, somebody smack me. I want her pussy too much for me to act in a way that doesn't create attraction for me.

I must say, at 25 IMO you are much too young to be so strung out for anyone. Trust me, there is someone else out there for you.

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