YES to your first sentence. lol (except for Irish- LMAO)

Now for the difficult part. My limited diversions to this interesting (and mostly) pleasant venue says that your long distant relationship does add an erratic burden to an already ticklish issue as dm383 pointed out. You may want to consider any venture into this new area from a less complicated start.

Strongest point you have is that it’s something you BOTH are interested in doing. I’ve found that even when somebody really wants to have a 3sum “for the other person”, it leaves an unfulfilled feeling for everybody and a VERY unfulfilled feeling for that one.

The advise on a good understanding between you from long, open conversations, should be taken advantage of. As well as it being very necessary, it can be a turn on itself. I’ve found that an agreed definition of your fantasy 3sum helps keep the green monster away and focuses on the exciting FUN part that that you both are after. “For me”, a 3some is just that. Three people enjoying sex simultaneously. One watching the other two or taking turns CAN be exciting but is not a 3sum. You BOTH doing her, or her doing BOTH of you, or….., or….., or….. is how you keep from *"I better not look like I’m enjoying this TOO much"*.

Finding that other person can be hard. It seems the best time have been somewhat spontaneous, at least for the first encounter with somebody. Your discussions can include a set of definite signals between you that you’ve both have found your prospective partner. It’s very hard when it’s very hard,:redghost: but I try to be careful NOT to coerce a situation anybody will have second thought about in the morning. LOL If EVERYBODY involved doesn’t really want to, it’s not what you wanted in the first place. And the black and white reality is always going to be a little different than the techno-color fantasy you started with.

The whole thing is kinda like tiptoeing through the minefield to the whorehouse. If you make it, it’s GREAT!

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