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you asked if i thought, i answered you based on my temperament. i am not mistaken. i have not erred. i can’t have because these are my thoughts on the subject. they are not misinformation to correct. i am not a combative person. i do not seek to put others on the defensive. and if i am interested enough to know more, or if i doubt a person’s statement, i search for my own answers.

you said your reading of my post history lead you to a conclusion, i don’t know what other that can mean than what it says. please excuse the misunderstanding. i am absurdly relieved that you didn't do that. it seemed very ... odd and sad. but i have a bone to pick, so excuse me moment - you don’t recall adding and i doubt you heard it anywhere reasonable? you mean you’re not sure or just don't remember? it seems an odd sort of phrase. didn’t you go back and check? i am wondering because "i did not say that" would be a more appropriate statement. i’m sure you know perfectly well you didn’t say that that to me, or to anyone else in those exact words. i’m also sure you understood my point perfectly. don’t be smarmy, it doesn’t suit you.

discussion is not informal debate. informal debate still has rules and structure. formal discussion can be debate but this is not even formal discussion, it’s just discussion - discourse, if you prefer - and it will move on as long as anyone has anything to say, relevant to the topic or no. and people will usually still have things to say until someone stops them in their tracks with a challenge. that is when discussion turns into contention. then it stops. not because no-one is certain where others are getting their explanations, but because it becomes a match of opposition. opposition pretty much rules out progression. like pong. back and forth the point goes until someone decides they don’t want to play anymore.

i belivee it boils down to temperament and we see this place, pixies-place, differently. we come here with different attitudes and we come here for different reasons. we appraoch a thread or discussion with very different expectations. because i look at this place as a home-ish sort of place, a place of retreat of sorts, i respect it and all the people in it. i treat them as i would a friend, or at the very least an acquaintance to whom i can wave on occasion. at the very, very least i can try to treat everyone with respect, even when i disagree. but if i can't seem to manage even that, then this place deserves my silence.