Steph, that's pretty much the mind set I'm in at the moment...what you're saying does not sound harsh at all.

She's going through a manically happy stage at the moment, because of the new man in her life, and the rest of us are getting treated really badly because of it, which makes me feel more and more that I'm doing the right thing by backing off and not getting drawn into interfering with her life. After all, there's no point investing too much in someone who treats you badly when she's happy, and rides rough shod over your needs/responsibilities/wants when she's in need.

I think you said it all Steph, with your last sentence....it's a tack I'm trying to take, but it's not that easy when it's someone you love.

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