09-04-2005, 10:22 AM
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pixie of the wood
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Join Date: Apr 2004
Posts: 10,575
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std's are something that many people must live with, and for most people who have one there are ways to deal with them without giving up any and all sexual contact.
but you must be cautious and responsible:
~always let a potential partner know beforehand.
~casual sex is out.
~keep up on all treatment.
there are some people who are willing to risk an std for someone else, but it's usually people who are in love. i've never had to make this decision, but if my husband had a treatable std, i would still choose to make love to him. i can’t speak for him, but i am fairly certain he feels the same way. we'd do everything we could to lessen exposure and if it was curable, we'd have waited for symptoms to subside, but basically it’s a no-brainer for me.
i was a little annoyed, but more so at your girlfriend. for her not to have told you before you guys got together was pretty irresponsible.
my post before was just some advice on how to live with it, since that seems to be the decision you made. my daughter actually has a few warts near her mouth and her dermatologist has prescribed a genital wart cream (of all the creepy things) to try and treat them before we have to try something invasive and traumatic to a four year old like freezing them off. so naturally i had questions, and i did some research on warts. lil has some excellent info links there, so check em out. you’ve done other research and it sounds like you’re going to be responsible. i think, if i may add my defense of lilith to her own ~not that she needs it~ …. she’s trying to tell you it’s nothing to fuck around with. i just wanted you to know that most std’s are manageable if you treat them properly. you’re pretty young to be giving up so much for her, but age doesn’t always tell maturity. you may know exactly what you’re doing.
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