This is no solution.....But does the fact that her husband is deployed have anything to do with it? It's one thing to be in love with someone else when you get to come home to your husband every night.

It's another thing to make this "decision" when you are lonely and haven't seen your husband in a while. It's very hard to prioritize someone who is abscent over a warm, willing, caring, and compatible person you see daily.

IMHO -- there is more than one person in this world who you could be perfectly happy with and who would complement you. I've met a couple in my life time that -- were circumstances different -- I could have comitted the rest of my life to. Falling in love -- and caring for someone -- is not a sin. And caring for two men at once is eminently possible.

The choices your friend need to make are (1) is she unhappy with her husband, or is it the immediacy of being near someone else (while being lonely) that is clouding her judgement? and (2) is it worth the tradeoffs to make this big life change? and (3) Is it better to wait and mak ethe decisions after her husband is home?

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney