If all that is true it has to be hard for him to not reach out and seize you and let God sort the rest out.

Both my heart and my mind tell me that it is true beyond all doubt. God will take care of things because He knows best. It took me a while to understand a lot of things...anything from faith/belief in God to anything dealing with love. Things come to pass for a reason and I am a willing student to learn from them all.

I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup. I love what Pantyfanatic quoted above. I wish I had something magical to say to make you feel better, but unfortunately, I don't have the answers. I do know that for some reason, everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we never know the real reason...it's not meant for us to figure out. I also know what it's like to love someone and loose them though and it is definately tough. However, I wish you wouldn't put a limit on yourself as to saying you'll reject anyone else that comes along. Maybe this person that comes along was meant for you...and is the reason. Who knows? Just keep the special memories close to your heart and don't let anything take them away...they are yours!

Keep your chin up!
IWM

I'm also very sorry for the breakup, AV. We'll be thinking of you. Don't always know why things work the way they sometimes do, but I remain convinced that somehow, things will work out. God bless and take care.

DB

I have scrolled past the above advice... with 100% certainty that each of them are worthy of your attention... and if you read them all... and closely you will discover that there is no wiser advice for me to offer.... they have covered it all...

I wish you well.... and urge you to remember that ALL of us are a product of our experiences... this experience has changed you... just as every experience you ever have will... allow yourself to grow with it...

As We Grow Up
 

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.

You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time.

You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken.

You'll fight with your best friend.

You'll blame a new love for things an old one did.

You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

I wish I wrote this but it was passed on to me by a freind and I thought I'd share it with you.
Time does heal
Peace!

Seizing me is probably hard for him to do....both his mind and his heart have to want to embrance everything about me at the same time. If that day ever comes and it lasts for a lifetime, I would ask for nothing else and be truly happy.

Ok, as a guy who's actually met the guy in question, I can only say this, you are FAR better off without him. I have a friend in a similar position and it hurts me deeply to see both you and her go through this. The only advice I can offer is to follow your mind, your a smart girl, you procrastinate too much but who doesn't? What I'm saying is that you'll figure this one out. The mind and heart of a human are two of the most powerful things in the world. What is important is that you let your mind lead you as much as your heart does. Like I said, you're a smart girl, so let your mind lead the way for a while.

Ok people I’ve been reading and I can’t sit back any longer and let people keep giving MY ex advice.

First of all wandering soul:
I don’t see where a bisexual, pot smoking, heavily medicated, guy such as yourself that only has been around me for about a week has any room to say she is FAR better off without me.

As for Kaelynn:
You are nothing but a slut that likes to give advice where it’s not wanted. Every chance you get you tell AV how bad I am and try to turn her against me. In the beginning this was making her want to get away from you but I defended you and said it didn’t bother me. You crossed a line when you lied to me. I have grown to hate you with a passion. I only act as nice around you as I do because I don’t want to ask AV to get you out of her life.

If the two of you knew half the story you would stop saying how horrible I am and grow up. I ONLY left AV because I didn’t feel I was being the man she deserved. I have always treated her with love, respect, and done all I could to make her happy. Sure just as anyone else I have my problems but unlike the two of you I seem to be working on them.


As for everyone else, you’re advice was well put and since you don’t know me or the situation I’m glad you look out for AV as you do.


It's been brought to my attention that this may be deleted because I sound vicious. Before doing this put yourself in my shoes, what would you do/say? Everything I have said is true and I should have the right to speak my mind just as anyone else. With that said do as you will.

whoo! son you have got some balls. what are you doing coming in here on your first post and calling people out. That's asking for trouble.

1) Apparantly, you have some issues with mr. wanderingsoul. that's fine, no body says you have to like everybody. But I find it a little ironic that you're trashing him going on and on about how he doesn't know you all the while, YOU DON'T KNOW HIM EITHER. You have spent no more time with him than he has with you. Both of you are passing judgement and it makes you both look like :ahole: Deal with that shit in PM's - that's why we have them.

2) Regarding your girl AV. Only one post on here has been attacking you, and we've discussed that in part 1. Everyone else has been trying to build up the girl that you say you are in love with. So don't come on here with an attitude when we are just trying to help. No one is cutting on you, no one is dogging you out, you don't need to get defensive. In fact, the other person you called out said in a previous post that you actually aren't too bad of a guy. We aren't interested in hurting you, we're interested in helping her. Or to paraphrase another Pixie - she is our priority, you are not. At least you weren't before you became a member.

3) and speaking of KAELYNN (and girlfriend, listen up, because I'm going to thump your nose a little here, too). You two apparantly don't get along. I've got some firthand experience with situations like this. The bottom line is that the two of you have got to be at least courteous to one another. No exceptions, no excuses. If you can't handle being courteous, then simply don't be around one another. But the fact is, the more you two bicker ans squabble, the more difficult you make life for AV. Do not name call, do not trash each other in public (what you do in private it your business) and do not bitch to her about how awful the other one is. That's why you have girlfriends and guyfriends. Bitch to them about it.

4) and 4, just to satisfy my own curiosity.
There is anothe member, qwerty, that has been very active in this thread. I suspect, MR. AV Man, that this is another alias for you, or it is someone you know well working for you. I could be wrong. But this motherfucker seems to have a very indepth knowledge of your situation and is all to eager to provide advice. And everytime, his advice is geared toward getting you and AV back together, or building you up. so I'm just curious - not passing judgement not pointing fingers. ARe you behind him?

Ok, so I've officially stuck my nose in where it doesn't belong, but i don't regret it. I think we are all working toward a common goal, and that is AV's ultimate happiness. However, SHE is the one who has to decide what makes her happy. The best thing you can do for right now is to back off and let her take the time that she needs to get herself together. That means no phone calls, emails, internet conversations and NO DEFENDING YOURSELF ON MESSAGE BOARDS YOU KNOW SHE READS! Let her contact you. I know it's hard, but it's for the best.

I hope I've managed to do this adult-like. If you're pissed, feel free to respond, preferably in PM's.

Sincerely,

LAW

P.S. one more thing. Please do not call my girl Kaelynn a slut in public again. I will not be as nice about it next time.

I'll make this short.

Every comment I made about wanderingsoul and Kaelynn is fact.

Kaelynn's comments and attacks are mostly offline.

AV is the one to contact me first every time we talk. She also read and approved me posting my post before I submitted it.

qwerty has been a member since Sep 2003. I didn't even know AV back then... how could I be a member of a site she introduced me to before I knew of it?

OhioGuy/AV'sMan~ since you are brand spanking new I'm going to make sure you understand that this is a no flame forum. I understand you are upset because advice was given to AV you don't think features you in a favorable light but flaming, name calling and disrespect will not be tolerated. When this thread was posted, you were not a member and so the members here posted regarding a stranger. You joined shortly after and while I can understand your feelings. Your post is inapropriate. Obviously this drama is personal and should be taken to PMs or messengers.

I'll take Lilith for the WIN! You get 'em boss!


this is in no way mean to perpetuate drama - IT'S A JOKE!

Madame Lil rules, but I'm gaining more and more respect for LAW.. ain't she a peach?

Pear. Well, at least pear-shaped. :rofl: