I think if he's not comfortable discussing his sexuality with you, he may be very uncomfortable to find that you've been discussing it with a whole load of strangers.

Whether you like it or not, you need to bite the bullet and talk to him face to face about how is apparent lack of caring about your sex life is making you feel. He may feel hurt and betrayed to find that you've discussed it here first before he was even aware of the problem.

Talk to him about it, and if he doesn't listen, or take it to heart, try again in different ways until he gets the message.

When I was a young teenager (and a virgin) I would always read in teen magazines etc that if you're not mature enough to handle a face to face conversation with your partner about sex/contraception etc that you're not mature enough to handle actually having sex. Whenever I feel shy about discussing something sexual with my partner, I remind myself of that....I'm a grown woman, who's intimate with my partner, why on earth should I be shy about talking about what we do between the sheets? Just something you might want to bear in mind to help you keep some perspective. :)

i agree with lou…again :D ...no subterfuge or dancing around the subject or hinting or leaving stories and thoughts on paper for him to find. you both need to talk, face to face, get him to listen to what you want and listen to him when he tells you what he wants.

good luck! :)

Ye have not because ye ask not.

I've discovered that there is no "list of desires" that one can compile, but rather a "list of desires I'm thinking of right now". People's fantasies are a living document. I have a few that haven't changed over the years, but I have new ones all the time that come and go. The beauty of open and comfortable communication between couples is that they can share these thoughts without worrying about being thought of as "weird" or whatever.

One fantasy I didn't discover until having been married almost ten years was going down on Mrs. WI after having climaxed inside of her. That's one we definately are glad we shared. Though we didn't discuss that one before I did it, we talked afterwards about how we each felt and discovered that we were suprisingly turned on by it. We incorporate that into our sex lives on a regular basis now.

Anal sex is a desire I've wanted to experience for a long time. I've expressed interest in, well...to put it bluntly...thrust my penis into her ass. :D She's mentioned that "it looks like it feels incredible, but I can't get past the thought of it hurting". But I never, ever would've enjoyed the feeling of her using a vibrator on me while performing fellatio had it not been for expressing my interest in it.

Open and comfortable communication enables you to bring stuff up like this whenever it pops to mind! It's a great thing! Inside the bedroom and out. :)

hey guys this is her hubby
 

Hey guys this is her hubby....Well this problem of hers has now come to my attention...

I greatly appreciate you guys helping her out. She never did get up enough nerve to say something though...

Which I don't blame her I wouldn't have ever asked her either. I'm not the type of person that talks about these types of things.

Well I happened to walk up behind her while she was scanning through the forums for something called the Strokey Pokey so if you guys know where that is at please send it to her.

What she didn't know was that what she was showing was everything that she has been trying to tell me for weeks.

I'll do my best to actually open up...that is if she doesn't pressure me (yeah like I would do that-I’ve been trying to find a way to talk to you without pressure for the last weeks... so :P - callie) DAMN GIRL you take things way to seriously...I was just kidding...

Yes guys we are both sitting here at typing this together. That’s why it might seem that I have two personalities.

Yup I admit it I smoked the wacky tobacky when I was young....wait I’m still young what am I saying....

So anyways you guys have a nice nite and enjoy what ever fantasies you guys are acting out....

Callie will try to keep you guys updated about how our Communication Issue is coming along...

Got a short riddle for you...

If I work in Communications how can I have a Communications Issues?

I should have seen the work order for this issue a long time before this. HINT! HINT! HINT! Callie

My average response time is 10 minutes.....LOL

Thanks guys...

Ice1717

Fine i'll just have to get right on creating the forms right now. That way i can have them at the ready for any issues that come up!!! LOL

Isn't he so sweet. all through reading the forum, the worst he did was laugh. I think with him printing out the forum would have worked the best. I believe he and i do have the same issue. Well kinda... I'm too scared... He isnt used to intimacy of this kind... resulting in neither one of wanting to say or do anything the other may construe as gross or too taboo.

he was a little shocked at my asking you all for advise. But was impressed with how straight forward, helpful, and non-judgemental you all were. thank you. It takes a lot to impress him to actual words. You all are good. lol

loulabelle, you were right. but i tried. if you ask ice he will tell you i've been dropping hints. i even tried the "can we talk some where away from 'the boy'." (one of our son's many affectionately given nicknames) but we were seriously side-tracked this weekend. we had an emergency that took away most of our weekend. well at least our part of the weekend. saturdays are mainly family time with our son.

hope you all like him and give him a nice welcome(i have no doubts)...hopefully he will soon join our ranks. :)

Callie (this time)

First of all, welcome Ice1717!!!!!!!!!!!

Glad to meet you, and I'm glad that you've liked what you've seen here so far.

Both of you, don't beat yourselves up over a tiny little problem like this....looks like you're well on the way to solving it already and will have lots of fun along the way!

Callie, thanks for the little note to me, but it's not necessary. I'm just glad no harm has been done and that you can both begin to deepen your relationship and explore your sexuality together.

Remember, a great sexual relationship is one where both partners feel they're reaching their full sexual potential. Have fun!!!!

UPDATE: We are going shopping soon... for a new TOY! Oh Boy! Ice is even going so far as to shave partially for me! Can you believe it? I still can't! But I cant wait either! LOL Hope fully more to come.

Thanks again everyone.

Callie

once again lou you were rihgt i just screwed up the nerve(pun intended) and asked him face to face ... and with the light on even! Heehehehehe