Just adding a bit more
 

Ok if my last post hit any nerves I am sorry. Now as I live in the land of the Kangaroo I know that our legal system here is different to other countries. I can tell you this much about our's, most custody battles here always go to the mums. So the kids stay with them. There are of course the exceptions, as I posted in my first, only if the the mother has a severe drug or alcohol problem will the kids end up with the father. Also if she is hitting the kids from a very early age, which can be a sign of PND. Obviously if she is diagnosed with an incurable illness then naturally they would go to the father. That is the same everywhere. All I can say is what I have already said really. Fight the system with a good lawyer who may be able to argue the point of the cutting is a result of abuse at her dad's.

It may also be noted that she may just be not happy there and is acting "out". Either way you need to do something. Otherwise she could become another "statistic" that fell through the cracks in the legal system.

So fight on my dear for, if you know in your gut that something dire is wrong then do what has to be done.

thanks so much for all the input
have just arrived home and let me just say i wont be able to get up there fast enough for my own feeling on this
she definately needs for me to be there so it's off to washington i go

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i spoke with the couselor that she has been seeing already and she is def not the right person for my kid to be talking to am wondering how i can get that changed but will wait til i am in wash to do that and i have already been in contact with a mediater here in cal for any advice that is legal like and also just so my ducks can all stay in a row where my ex is concerned
so not to worry i am not going into this blind or half-cocked just needed some emotional support and you all did that for me quite wonderfully
I THANK YOU ALL from the bottom of my heart not to worry folks it is my intent to seek out some pro help for myself as well as for my kid who is almost 13 btw

Glad to hear that you're managing everything so well, BG....you were in my thoughts this week. Hope this is the start of all things good.

G

thanks for your sweet concern GingerV sometimes a person just needs to know that others care and you have shown me that. ty and consider yourself huggled

It's great to hear you have a plan....

I wish the best for your daughter and yourself.

Biiiiiiggg massive huggles for you and Audrey :hug: :hug:

Good luck, and stay in touch :)

Let me just say that I think it is REALLY cool that you're going to move up there and spend more time with your daughter. I think you will both be the better for it.

((((Boilergirl)))) ~~ takes guts. Good for you.

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thank you osuche it's always good to get positive affirmation when the the road seems so foggy ahead

Counseling is in order as this could be a symptom of a larger problem.

10 years later and I still have to be careful wearing short sleeve shirts or else I get the inevitable question "What happened to your arm?" With my usual and obviously blatant lie "A car accident"

((((((BG))))))

I don't have anything to add to all the great advice already given.

Just wanted you to know, you & your sweet girl are in my thoughts & prayers.

You know where to reach me if ya need to talk. :)

teddy