Achilles Heel

[osuche]

So....I'm curious. Mostly because I've been thinking about mine. :D

Do you have an Achilles heel? That one thing that ~~ if you could fix it ~~ would make you more successful? Now....before you hop all over me, I KNOW success is defined in many ways. So you're going to have to tell me what your definition is too. :D


I'm looking forward to your responses....

[osuche]

Just in case someone needs a bit of background on our hero Achilles:

"When Achilles was born, his mother, Thetis, tried to make him immortal by dipping him in the river Styx. As she immersed him, she held him by one heel and forgot to dip him a second time so the heel she held could get wet too. Therefore, the place where she held him remained untouched by the magic water of the Styx and that part stayed mortal or vulnerable. "

[blkcat]

Mine, I wear my heart on my sleeve

[Mark Vieth]

Well I think we all have a kink that we would rather do without.

Mine would have to be that I also wear my heart on my sleave/shoulder. Now some girls like a guy who is in touch with his emotions coz it's something that they don't see every day. It makes us vulnerable but at the same time also makes us stronger.

[LixyChick]

Man...I used to love that band Styx!

Oh...wait...um...nevermind!

LOL!

Anyway...to me, osuche...success is measured by how happy I am of my personal accomplishments. I have many accomplishments that will leave my mark on this earth when I am gone.

My Achilles heel is that I have yet to find the ultimate "personal" accomplishment of...WHAT I WANT TO BE WHEN I GROW UP! I don't have that insight, spark, dream...whatever you'd call it when someone knows their goals and goes for them with all the gusto they can muster! I don't know how to aquire it (whatever "it" is that I don't have) and I envy others for having it...especially right out of high school...but even later in life when the feeling hits them.

That song (forgot the name and the artist) that has the verse..."You want it all, but you can't have it. It's in your reach, but you can't grab it. What is "it"...Kind of a rap/head bangin tune...but damn if I can remember who did it?? Anyway...I get so depressed when I hear that fuckin song! I feel like they wrote it for me!

*sigh*



Good thread osuche!

[Oldfart]

Lixy, I still haven't worked out what I want to succeed at when I grow up, but I'm

pretty happy with what I've done so far.

My Achilles Heel is my vanity, particularly about my intellect.

Every so often it leads me to a fall on my arse, with the short term lesson learned.

Long term, I am an incurable smarty/smartarse.

[BigBear57]

For me my personal success is in having the two greatest kids one could ever ask for. I get lots of compliments on being a good Dad. I don't think it's anything I've done so much as having had a great mentor in my own Father. My one weakness, having had it pointed out by the best friend $200/hr money can buy, is that I tend to focus on what people can be and not what they are at present. The unfortunate truth of that weakness is I tend to experience tons of heartache thinking "they'd never do anything to hurt me" and finding out my rose colored glasses need some serious cleaning.

[thereIam]

Achille's Heel? How about heels? Too damn many to mention. The biggie I suppose is that I seem to be too laid back about things I should be passionate about, and too passionate about things that I should just allow to wither.


Oh, and Lixy? The tune is "Epic", by Faith No More. 'Round these parts it was known as The Floppin' Fish Song because of the vid on MTV.

[LixyChick]

Oh, and Lixy? The tune is "Epic", by Faith No More. 'Round these parts it was known as The Floppin' Fish Song because of the vid on MTV.
*curtsey* TY ever so kindly! LOL@The Floppin Fish vid!

[Lilith]

That's what we call it @ my house too :p

[cherrypie7788]

My Achilles heel is that I have yet to find the ultimate "personal" accomplishment of...WHAT I WANT TO BE WHEN I GROW UP! I don't have that insight, spark, dream...whatever you'd call it when someone knows their goals and goes for them with all the gusto they can muster! I don't know how to aquire it (whatever "it" is that I don't have) and I envy others for having it...especially right out of high school...but even later in life when the feeling hits them.

I can completely relate to you, Lixy, even though I'm working on my supposed future career (that I'm beginning to hate already). The ONE thing I'd love to make a living doing will probably never happen for me unfortunately. I don't just want to be another person going to work every morning just to pay the bills, hating my job and my life. But........

[Lilith]

I was once referred to as a "pleaser" and while that's not too far off the mark, I think a better term would be "fixer". I have a built-in desire to try to make things better for people or in some cases to make people better. Makes me a superb ESE teacher but a crap friend. Things are fine when I feel successful but when I don't, then my control issues come in to play, and my fight or flight instinct crops up. If you are my friend and you consistently have a problem and nothing I say or do helps...it doesn't help you derrive at a plan to fix it, or at least make you feel better about it, then I'm going to most likely ignore it. And in some cases it leaves friends feeling ignored too. I get my nose out of joint when I can't figure out how to "fix" it and especially if the friend is doing nothing to help the situation. I know that being a good friend means just simply listening sometimes and that they are not coming to me to have me "fix" things but my nature tells me something must be done. Anyway it causes hurt feelings sometimes, friends think I am disinterested but I'm really just avoiding the issue to escape feeling as if I've failed. *holds up fingers like a box* see it's alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll about me :D

[kathy1]

For me, success can be measured in small increments....I've never had the where-with-all to be a real earth shaker and mover (nor can i say, I've much wanted to, either)....i much prefer measuring the small things that leave me satisfied at the end of a day...and should they all add up sooner or later to a big thing, so much the better.....for me, success is not so much how big the box gets, but the wonderful surprises inside....make sense to anyone?

And my own achilles heel>>>> p-r-o-c-r-a-s-t-i-n-a-t-i-o-n!!! I am theeee world's worse for putting things off.

[Lilith]

I was once referred to as a "pleaser" and while that's not too far off the mark, I think a better term would be "fixer". I have a built-in desire to try to make things better for people or in some cases to make people better. Makes me a superb ESE teacher but a crap friend. Things are fine when I feel successful but when I don't, then my control issues come in to play, and my fight or flight instinct crops up. If you are my friend and you consistently have a problem and nothing I say or do helps...it doesn't help you derrive at a plan to fix it, or at least make you feel better about it, then I'm going to most likely ignore it. And in some cases it leaves friends feeling ignored too. I get my nose out of joint when I can't figure out how to "fix" it and especially if the friend is doing nothing to help the situation. I know that being a good friend means just simply listening sometimes and that they are not coming to me to have me "fix" things but my nature tells me something must be done. Anyway it causes hurt feelings sometimes, friends think I am disinterested but I'm really just avoiding the issue to escape feeling as if I've failed. *holds up fingers like a box* see it's alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll about me :D
Just another confession....I think I was thinking about my relationship with Skipthisone when I posted above. I often worry I was not as compassionate as I could have been, like I tried to just gloss things over, "fix" things by trying to just distract him. I worry that because I wasn't truly listening, I wasn't really hearing.

[Kaelynn]

I don't have one... I am perfect in everyway, and unwilling to admit any thing that could possibly be wrong with me... *switches off "guy mode"*

ok honestly I take a lot of things personally that I shouldn't and I tend to hold on to things, and I have a problem letting them go...

All of these things are because of my past which isn't bad... just different you could say.

If I could forgive and then completely forget.. then I would be more successful with relationships as well as friendships...

My definition of success is being happy... happy with everything, anytime, and anywhere...